Losing
“When you are angry, don’t let that anger make you sin,”[c] and don’t stay angry all day. Don’t give the devil a way to defeat you.”
Ephesians 4:26-27
My husband has a great sense of humor and can watch the same shows and movies over and over and still belly laugh. He’s working hard to make sure Maycee is a laugher too and hopes she’s less serious than her mama. I often tell Mark I am laughing on the inside. I’m just not much of an LOL(er).
But even I chuckle a little when I watch Kevin Hart. This summer I’ve been listening to his autobiography on an audio book. If you’ve seen his stand-up act, you know his content and language can be inappropriate and that’s true of his book too, but the overlying messages, including forgiveness, are really positive. These things stuck out to me the most:
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The ability to let things go
He describes his life in careful detail and shares his struggles. His mom raised him alone. His older brother got into trouble so his mom became extremely strict so he would be different. She was quite abusive as she tried to keep him in line.
He never let that or his dad’s crazy antics due to a drug addiction hold him back. He says, "For as long as I can remember, I've had the ability to shoulder-shrug things — to just accept them, say 'OK,' and get on with my life," he writes. "The opposite of shoulder-shrugging would be to get depressed or angry and to hold on to those emotions for the rest of my life."
This sounds very similar to Ephesians 4:31-32 “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
Ephesians was written by Paul and he wrote it to encourage Christians to always be growing in their faith and to live peacefully with others with no quarrels or divisions. I know I could achieve both of these goals by more quickly letting go of hurt feelings and offering forgiveness more readily.
2. Laughter and Enjoying Life
He learned to share the pain from his life through humor and says, “Laughter heals all wounds, and that’s one thing that everybody shares. No matter what you’re going through, it makes you forget about your problems. I think the world should keep laughing. In life, you can choose to cry about the bull**** that happens to you or you can choose to laugh about it. I choose laughter.”
He describes how early in his career he developed and wrote a sitcom based on his crazy family and it got picked up by ABC. They flew him to NYC to help promote it at a weekend event. He was ecstatic and spent his own money to fly the rest of the cast there. Right before his turn on stage he was told that ABC passed on the show and picked up a different one. He was crushed. Everyone around him was upset and saying this shouldn’t have happened, what an awful way to handle things, and how they were going to get to the bottom of it.
Within a few minutes, he decided he couldn’t change it by being mad or mopey. He decided to let it go and enjoy the weekend. The rest of the crew flew home, but he stayed and had a great time. Again, he says it was because of his ability to shoulder shrug things. Other people saw how he handled it and I’m sure that spoke volumes. Eventually ABC picked his show back up, but it wasn't his big break. It seemed like a huge deal to him at the time, but the way he handled himself mattered so much more in the long run.
Ephesians 4:26-27
My husband has a great sense of humor and can watch the same shows and movies over and over and still belly laugh. He’s working hard to make sure Maycee is a laugher too and hopes she’s less serious than her mama. I often tell Mark I am laughing on the inside. I’m just not much of an LOL(er).
The ability to let things go
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